The Truth About My Stretch Marks

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January 16, 2017

I remember someone mentioning to me at six months pregnant about stretch marks and the question of did I have any coming up. I didn’t at the time but sure as sh*t didn’t I see one while in the shower later that week. I think at 18 years old my skin was just so young the first time around it couldn’t handle it. With later pregnancies, I didn’t suffer anywhere near as bad with the tiger stripes.

My mother had assured me that the stretch marks would fade over time. I checked back in with her very four hours from there on one for the next 6 month to lament that they were not fading and she in fact was a liar. My hourly moisturising and obsessing had gotten me no where.

After I stopped shoving my stomach in my mother’s face I come to accept that I had to say goodbye to bikinis from there on in. What bikinis? I had never even worn a bikini let alone owned one. As a pale, ginger Irish girl who was allergic to the sun I didn’t really have my midriff on display a hell of a lot. Don’t get me wrong if there was a magic wand to get rid of them (someone should be working on that really) I would use it but I had to put it in perspective. I wasn’t really thinking about them until I was looking up close at them, naked in a mirror. So eventually I stopped doing that.

I stop punishing myself for having a body of a woman who had had a baby.

Of course, I was lucky to be health and have a gorgeous healthy baby (as very one kept reassuring me). But it didn’t help me feel better about my body. I had to figure that out myself.

I think at the time because I was a single mother I already had the fear of ‘who’d want me?’ And now with very visible war wounds I was feeling shell shocked.

My mother was right they do fade just not completely. But coupled with my caring about them fading more they are something I rarely think about. Yes, I’ll have to turn down a lot of lingerie photoshoot that I’ll no doubt be offer before the year is out but hey I’ll get over it.

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My mother had assured me that the stretch marks would fade over time

 

 

About 6 months after giving birth for the first time I told my friend about my terrible stretch marks. She asked could she see them and I said no. Today if I was asked the same question I’d give a different answer.

Just maybe give me a glass of wine first

Emma Doran
Emma Doran
Emma is a comedian living in Dublin with her partner Shane and their 3 children aged 13, 3 and 1. She a regular on the Irish comedy scene and has performed at some of the countries biggest venues like Vicar Street and The Olympia Theatre. She has supported Al Porter and Deirdre O' Kane. A regular on Republic of Telly, she has also appeared on Bridget and Eamon