What Is The 'Best' Age To Have Kids?

What Is The ‘Best’ Age To Have Kids?

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What age is the best age to have kids?

Well now that is really the same as asking how long a piece of string is, or how much wine is too much wine? Erm…

My own parents have done it all!  I was born when they were 20 and 21, the baby being born as they both turned 40.  They tell me that each of us (and we are six!) brought our own challenges.  I don’t think they’d say which is best, because they wouldn’t change a thing (I think!)

I remember when my Dad turned 30. At the wise old age of nine, I thought he was ANCIENT!  And as I now hit hard on 40 myself, I often consider how wonderful it is that so many of my generation were born to such young parents (and I am grateful to have them both still young and thankfully well.)

In the 80’s, it was the absolute norm for Mums to be 19 or 20.  It was perfectly acceptable to be married at 18 or 19. I remember hearing my Aunty proclaim, on her 21st birthday, that if she wasn’t married by the time she turned 25, to sign her up to a certain religious institution… And yet now, most don’t even consider settling down until late 20s/early 30s and most of us are having our kids in our mid to late 30s.

Having babies young has its benefits as well as its cons.  And waiting until later brings different struggles and joys.

As a Mammy who had baby one at 30 and baby two at 35, I can honestly say that the energy levels I had for number two differed desperately.  As did my physical recovery.  But again, everyone is different.  30 was the right age for me.  I was settled in my own skin, in my career and in my relationship.  And yet my friend who had her three kids before the age of 23 will tell you that she loved having them when she was younger and had more time and energy.

When you have your babies, really has no baring on the life of anyone else does it?  You are not ‘better’ if you have kids at whatever the national average is.  You are not ‘better’ if you have your kids young than the woman who is 41 when she gives birth.

Every one is different and as with all things parenty, there is no right or wrong.

Mammy

Maria Rushe
Maria Rushe
Maria Rushe is Donegal's Mammy Blogger. She writes at The S-Mum Blog where the S could stand for ANYTHING. She is Mammy to Mini-Me, Princess and a furbaby and married to Emmet. An English teacher with a passion for theatre and fitness, Maria writes a brutally honest and sometimes hilarious portrayal of the trials and tribulations of parenting